Speaker: Deborah Hartnett
Introduce yourself! Where are you from? Profession? What did life look like before END? What made you decide to work with us?
Deborah Hartnett: Hi, my name is Deborah Hartnett. I live in southern California. And what I do professionally is I am the founder of North Star business performance. I am a business performance coach. Um, what did life look like before? I, um, found Lisa in the dating world. I was divorced for seven years, I believe at that time. And, um, I didn't date, I had a very young son when I first got divorced and so about a year and a half to two years ago, I thought, ok, I'm ready. He's older now I can do this. And wow, is it different dating, um, in your early thirties to your late forties? So, um, I just didn't find quality men. Uh, uh, I just, they, they were either emotionally unavailable, um, or they were just looking for sex and again, this is my experience. Um, and I was like, there's, there's, there's gotta be some great men out there. Um, but I also knew there was probably some work that I needed to do on myself as well, even though I am in the personal growth and development world. Um, you know, there's always blind spots. So what resonated with me with Lisa was her just who she is and where she comes from. And so, you know, she really comes from a heart space, a spiritual place. I'm not religious at all. Um And this isn't a religious program. She's just comes from, you know, that human place, that connected place and that really resonated with me. And I wanted to find a man who came from that place so we could have a real deep connection and partnership.
What are the three biggest benefits from working in END?
Deborah Hartnett: I would say the three biggest benefits of working with emotionally naked dating and the team at Lisa Shields is um well, the first one was confidence um for me, uh after completing her program, I, I really felt like the work that I had done in her program uh really had me prepared to, to find a high quality man and to be able to weed out um the men that just weren't what I was looking for. Uh So I would say that that is one of one of the biggest benefits. Um the second benefit um was really being able to see my patterns. So Lisa has a method in her program for you to see the patterns of um your dating and basically in relationships in general, uh just a very profound process and um in doing that process, it just became so clear um The people that I was picking um and why I wasn't finding the, the type of relationship that I was looking for. And then I would say the ongoing support. And so, um you know, you go on a coaching call every week and uh you're on the court like you're you're in there, you're dating and you're meeting people and um you come to this call and you hear other people talking about their dates and what worked and what didn't work. And then of course, we get coaching. So that was really beneficial because I, I wasn't just learning from my own experience. I was able to expand and grow and avoid things, um, and do things. Um I think quite quickly because I was learning not only from Lisa and her team, but from the other women in the program who were out there dating as well.
What was your biggest breakthrough while in the program?
Deborah Hartnett: My biggest breakthrough when I was in the program was doing the relationship inventory and seeing a very clear pattern of the relationships that I have chosen based on my primary relationships. Um That was a huge aha moment. I actually had a couple and then finding out what my attachment style was just blew my mom and answered so many questions for me. Like it made, it made my dating life and really a lot of other aspects of my life makes so much more sense. Um So I would say those are the biggest breakthroughs while I was in the program.
What would you tell others who are thinking about joining the program?
Deborah Hartnett: What I would tell others who are thinking about joining the program. Um Oh my God, do it, do it. Uh I cannot tell you the amount of power I feel now like the, the clarity, the centeredness, um, the confidence that I now have because I know exactly what I'm looking for and it's not a laundry list like he has to be 6 ft five or whatever. No, these are qualities and, and certain acts, views and, and synergies that you, um, you find out in the program, are they call it your final five. But even through that process, um, you just get so clear. So do it, just do it. You will absolutely not regret it. I have recommended her program to every single one of my single female friends. Um I wish I could push them all into doing it, but I share her podcast with all my friends. I'm listening to Lisa's podcast all the time. Lisa is in my ear whenever I am dating. Um I would just say do it, do it, do it.
Is there anything else you'd like to add about your experience in END?
Deborah Hartnett: Um Is there anything else I'd like to add about my experience uh with the program, all I can say is that the quality of the women that were in the program was just exceptional. The, the type of woman who is attracted to this program really are women who are smart, successful in their own, right? Um And just really just missing that last little piece that they want for their lives, which is that partner and you know, not everybody cares or wants that. But the women that are in this program are people who are go getters and this is just something that they want and are ready to work at getting. So I, I can't say enough about this program. I really cannot. Um It has to be one of the most valuable things that I have done for myself in this last decade of my life. So, um honestly, I just can't say enough.
