Todd and Misty Cramer for Become a Marriage Mentor Video Testimonial

Speaker: Todd and Misty Cramer

Todd and Misty Cramer: Hi, I'm Todd Kramer and I'm Misty Kramer and we're from Unionville, Michigan.

Todd and Misty Cramer: I had the privilege of meeting Jill at a writers and speakers conference. I went to a couple of years ago and in my time of just sitting and talking with her, I was able to get a lot of good information for my ministry. And so when I saw this um put out on social media about the marriage mentoring training. I told Todd, I was super excited about this. Yeah. So when Misty shared it with me, we thought this is something we definitely need to participate in. We have had the opportunity to mentor couples from time to time and we really wanted to go through this training so that we could offer them the very best.

Todd and Misty Cramer: One of the things I think that really changed for me after the marriage, mentoring training was just how to be much more intentional and in tune with when to have the conversations that we needed to have. And so look at the, at the mood of the spouse and what's going on in that day, the schedule and things like that and just say, hey, is this a good time for such and such a conversation? And for me understanding better the personal operating system, uh inventory and how key our personality and temperament traits are in affecting how we process, you know, the world around us really is beneficial in terms of understanding how your spouse approaches conversations and, and issues. So I thought that was really valuable and really helped change us.

Todd and Misty Cramer: Well, there were lots of specific uh improvements, changes, results from this training. But one that really comes to mind is that when I went through and identified my love style that I'm a pleaser and I'm married to a pleaser. And just having that background really helped me better understand how I approach situations in our marriage, how Misty approaches situations and really gave us some good tools to understand our interactions a lot better and improve those interactions. That was a huge one and he already explained it. So I'm not gonna go into detail on that one, but that, that was a big one just finding out that we were both pleasers and therefore really like to avoid conflict. And um another big thing that was really helpful to me was doing the timeline. We did the timeline from our, our birth up until now. And what were those pivotal moments that helped to shape us? And just that recognition of looking at that and seeing that there are a lot of things in our past that have formed who we are now in our marriage and that a lot of the, the arguments or the disagreements or the uh discussions that we have really have less to do with the two of us and more to do with the things that were on our timeline from perhaps our childhood pains or trauma and things like that. And so that was really interesting and created some great conversation for us as a couple.

Todd and Misty Cramer: Well, if you're giving this uh training some thought, here's something that I really want to encourage you to keep in mind is that Mark and Jill bring a wealth of experience to this training. They've, they've had so much uh opportunity to put these tools into practice and they're getting incredible results from them. And they also bring it with a really fresh and fun approach. And so the training is, is lively and I gotta tell you that the session on, on sex and marriage is worth the whole thing. There we go. It has to do with that. Sign him up. And I think there were some really great tools for this that everybody will benefit from. I mean, we went into it thinking that we were going to get some new information to be able to help other couples that were mentoring. And the reality is, I mean, you can't go away from this without having great tools for your own personal marriage and putting those to use. And so that has been great. Another benefit is the guide that they give you with. This is gonna be invaluable. You can constantly be able to go back to this resource that lists all of the notes and everything that was covered in all of the sessions. Uh the inventories that you do like the five love languages, the personal operating system inventory, the secure connector assessment. Those things are so huge in just being able to understand those. The way Jill and Mark broke those down and went over those in each session with us and with individual couples was just invaluable. It's just a great experience. Highly recommend we are both double thumbs up on this. So sign up, get registered for it, Mark and Jill are awesome.