Speaker: Jamie Beard
What's your name and where do you live?
Jamie Beard: I'm Chris and I'm Jamie and we are the Beards. Where do we live? Dayton, Tennessee.
What motivated you to seek the Marriage Coach training?
Jamie Beard: Well, you know, we're, we're 29 years married and uh it's been all lollipops and gum drops. So, you know, we just think that we have a lot to share. We're kidding. Totally kidding. Uh But after 29 years of marriage, um you know, our, our marriage has had a lot of hills and a lot of valleys and we had sought counseling, Christian counseling, all those sort of things in the past and quite honestly, I don't know, it was just kind of felt empty, void like nothing ever got fixed. And so we were just still searching quite honestly and the Lord has healed our marriage in so many ways and it's continuing to grow, even going through this training. And it's just such an encouragement that there is hope and we want to be a couple that can instill hope to other broken couples out there that have stuck and stayed and are still trying and searching and seeking. And the Lord is still ministering to them and we just want to be vessels.
Jamie Beard: I just feel like we have so much we could give to people. You know, we've learned a lot. and we are learning a lot through this program that I think that we're just approachable people. We're real transparent. I just think we can help people can relate. when you've been through something and trials yourself and you come out on the other side, you're better for it. but then you can actually empathize, not just sympathize. And I think that's the big difference between desiring to be a marriage mentor or marriage coach uh with Mark and Jill Savage and maybe going to seek counseling that that would be the big difference.
What has changed for you now that you're 6 months into your Marriage Coach training?
Jamie Beard: I think the impostor syndrome is gone imposter syndrome. I feel like we should do this now. That's good. That is good. Definitely, that's behind us and uh we can be raw, we can be real, Mark and Jill Savage have definitely led the way in that and I think that's pivotal for couple um seeking to enter into this is to have an understanding. Yeah, you can see counseling and psychiatrists and all this. And, and I'm, I'm not saying anything against all that stuff. It just didn't work for us. But what drew us in, I think was the, it's just how real they are and they could empathize with what we've been through. We could empathize with where, where they've been and it does it when you can do that when you can get in the pits with somebody else, so the foxhole, so to speak. man, that's relatable and then that gives the other person hope that you can literally lock arms with them and, and go to battle and climb out of that foxhole, uh you know, survivors and winners. And as Paul tells us, overcomers, we are overcomers. And so where we're at now, we've overcome that imposter syndrome and we have vision, uh we have a vision for what we want to do with this ministry and, and what we can accomplish for kingdom work in rebuilding other couples lives.
Can you share one specific result you’ve had from the Marriage Coach training?
Jamie Beard: What's one specific thing that you have gotten? That's an inside joke guys, but that's communication for us. Number one is uh not just communication effective if I could add that adjective in there is effective communication and, and it flows both ways. Listening, getting him to communicate and receiving. that was definitely a big one. getting me to open up and get in touch with all these feelings kind of stuff. He's definitely an avoider. Well, yeah, that's number two for you, right. So there you go. But no, definitely communication...and effective communication. Excuse me. Uh has probably been the, the pivotal point in training. It's impacted us for much better.
What would you say to someone who was thinking about signing up for the Marriage Coach training but is on the fence right now?
Jamie Beard: Jamie, what would we say? I know what I would say or rather do if somebody was on the fence about thinking whether they should do this marriage, mentoring, coaching thing or not, I just drop, kick him off the other side and say, go for it, just do it.
Jamie Beard: Mark and Jill Savage uh have been in the trenches themselves and uh you know, through God's grace, they've chosen to stick and stay and build. It's hard work folks. It is hard work, but we're locking arms with Mark and Jill. And we're so encouraged to be just invited to be part of their, their ministry and what they're doing now and that encourages us and, and not only instills hope in us, but then when we're full, the ministry overflows and we can sense that and, and see that in Mark and Jill as individuals, but as a couple and so their, their ministry is just overflowing into us and that's our hope that's our vision. That's our prayer uh for you. If you're sitting on the fence or we highly encourage you. If I see you in person, I'm gonna drop, kick you off the fence while you're sitting there trying to decide just to go for it. Jump. It'll be all right. We love you guys.
